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Bullying at School: The Solution Starts At Home

Bullying at School: The Solution Starts At Home

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Ours is a world full of mean people saying mean things. So when our children act badly, why should it surprise us? I’ve started this article many times and each time I start, I stop because I get overwhelmed with the task of fitting all there is to say on the subject. It’s no secret all of our local school systems in Huntsville, Madison, and Madison County have had incidents of bullying at school. That’s when I started writing again because frankly, it needs to be said.

Bullying is so rampant in our culture that keeping it out of our schools seems to be an impossible task, but as parents there are steps we can take to protect our children.

Step #1: Know What Constitutes Bullying

If you’ve ever spent time reading some of the comments left on local news sites or on social media, you may feel you know all too well how DESPERATELY our country needs to pay attention to this issue. But let’s be clear about what the issue is first.

Bullying is not just someone saying something mean (although the more our children observe casual meanness the more likely they are to accept bullying behavior). Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that is repeated and involves a real or perceived power imbalance.

Learn more about what is and isn’t bullying HERE.

Bullying can come in many forms (physical threats or violence, teasing, spreading rumors or isolation on purpose) and with the proliferation of computers and smart phones in our lives these acts no longer have to be done in person. Research found that nearly 43% of high school students had experienced some type of cyberbullying and that cyberbullying is often accompanied by bullying in person.

Step #2 – Know That Bullying is NOT OK

There are certain things in life we cannot protect our children from no matter how much we wish otherwise. As sure as they learn to walk, they will fall and skin their knee. Eventually, they will experience a crush that is unrequited and it will break their heart (and yours). These are life experiences that hurt at the time but also help our children to grow and develop.

One experience that isn’t part of that list – bullying. Your child does not need to “get over it” and “toughen up” if they are being bullied. They do need to speak up and tell an adult, but they won’t do that unless they believe they will be supported when they do. Make sure the children in your life know you will listen to their fears and do something about it when they come to you.

Step #3 – Talk About It Before They Do

Have an age-appropriate discussion about bullying with your child NOW. Don’t wait until the situation occurs to discuss bullying. Talk with them often about the importance of respecting other people, treating everyone with kindness, and standing up for others that they may see being bullied.

The importance of the adults in your home modeling this behavior cannot be overstressed. Children learn behavior from those around them. If you show compassion for those who are different or perceived as weak by our society, they will too.

Step #4 – Watch for the Signs

Children who are experiencing bullying are often embarrassed or fear retaliation and are therefore reluctant to speak up. Knowing the signs to watch for can help you in identifying whether or not your child or someone you know may be experiencing bullying. The government website is full of useful resources about this subject and is a great place to start. Keep in mind you should be watching for warning signs not only that your child might be bullied but that your child might be a bully.

Step #5 – Know What To Do

If your child is being bullied or observes someone else being bullied they need to talk to an adult right away. Depending on the age of the child, a teacher, counselor or principal are all good first steps. Even if your child isn’t comfortable doing that, just talking to the school about your concerns will help them to watch for signs.

Madison County Schools
Hotline: 256-713-0257

Madison City Schools
Text to Protect: 256-604-2345
Safe Schools Tip Line: 256-464-6575

Huntsville City Schools
Huntsville High School: 256-536-4915

Keep in mind there are a few other options in our community as well. There are anonymous hotlines, tiplines and complaint forms in place at Madison County Schools and Madison City Schools as well as Huntsville City Schools. These numbers are checked several times a day by school resource officers and the information is passed along to the appropriate personnel.

If you know of any local resources not listed here, please leave them in the comment section and we’ll be sure to verify them and add them to this article.


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  • Frankly, I wouldn’t consider that message as bullying. It’s written very politely and has basis for the criticism.

    I hope we haven’t reached the point in our society where we treat every criticism as bullying just like we now label any words we don’t like as “abuse”.

    • Alex – that’s actually the point I make in the article – “The anchor in the video at the bottom of this article was responding to a VERY RUDE and cowardly viewer but not a bully.” For an action to qualify as bullying it must be repetitive and there must be a perceived imbalance of power.

      What that person wrote was hurtful and rude but not bullying. That said, I do believe that the more desensitized our children get to mean comments and behavior (like that seen on many popular television shows) the worse our bullying problem will get.

  • I so agree about the mimicking aspect. My son, who is 10, is having an issue with one of his friends at school, who has polar opposite religious and political views to those he hears at home. Obviously, both children feel more comfortable with what their parents tell them. My son has told his friend repeatedly that he doesn’t want to talk about these topics. He even told him (on his own–I’m so proud!), “we’re just repeating what our parents say, anyway.” But the child persists. My last advice was that he had to make a decision: could he still be friends and overlook this aspect of his friend’s personality, or was it too stressful, and did he need to end the friendship? Life is so hard!

  • I think what the viewer wrote is true. It is hypocritical to teach our children behavior that we ourselves do not follow. It’s more “do as I say, not as I do” approach. Would you teach them not to smoke with a cigarette in your mouth?

    I think it might have been phrased nicer, but overall it’s a good point, it is the truth. Truth can be hurtful sometimes, we often don’t want to hear the truth.

    Why is it used as an example in an article about bullying?

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